1. Choose Your Targets
You don't have to have a crush
on someone in order to flirt.
Practice flirting with random
people you see every day -
people who might not even be
on your dating radar - on order
to hone your skills. That way,
you'll have some flirting
experience under your belt
when you approach the people
who really matter.
2. Have an Opening Line
Find a reason to talk to the
person. If you're in a class with
them, come up with a question
about an assignment. If they're
standing in line behind you at a
concert, ask about the band. Get
creative, and be ready to
respond to whatever they say.
3. Make Eye Contact
If you don't make eye contact,
you'll look bored or
uninterested, and that's not an
impression you want to give.
Too shy to look them right in
the eyes? Here's a trick: look at
the spot right between their
eyes. It'll look like eye contact to
them.
4. Come Up With a Compliment
Pick one thing you like about
the way they look - like their
hair, their smile or an article of
clothing. Let them know in a
friendly way how much you like
it. It'll make them feel good and
will open them up to you. (If you
can't think of an opening line
for tip #2, a compliment will do.)
5. Smile
You don't have to go all Bozo
the Clown, but the idea is to look
like you enjoy talking to them.
So be sure to throw them a
smile whenever it makes sense.
If they shoot one back, you'll
know that they like talking to
you, too.
6. Flirt With Your Body
The body language you use
when you flirt is just as
important as what you say. Use
good posture, point your body
towards the person and try to
find excuses to touch them.
7. Keep It Light
You'll get a way better response
if you chat about fun, happy
stuff (like your new puppy) than
serious or sad stuff (like when
your puppy got hit by a train).
The point of flirting isn't to bare
your soul or share your honest
opinions about everything. It's
to open the door to lots more
conversations down the road.
8. Beware of Awkward Silences
Once the convo drags, it's
probably gone for good. Fill an
awkward silence by asking the
other person a question. Can't
think of one? Ask them about
something they're wearing or something in your environment
(like a painting on the wall, or
the music that's playing).
9. Wrap It Up
If you're not interested in
talking anymore, politely find an
excuse to head off into the
sunset. If you are interested,
give them a way to get in touch
with you - like your phone
number or Facebook name. This
is (hopefully) just your first
convo of many, so save some of
that charm for the next time.
10. Practice, Practice, Practice
No one's perfect at flirting the
first time around. If the idea of
flirting still gives you butterflies,
don't worry - it just means that
you need more practice. The
more you flirt, the easier it'll get.
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